Parenting can be hard. Sometimes you have to say things that you know they will not like. I am not afraid to say the difficult things. I do, rather than barking a command, always explain my reasons and have them explain the situation to me, so if I've misunderstood, I can adapt to a reasonable decision for what was going on.
I always assure them that I love them and I know that it is natural for them to want to push away and rebel from experienced decisions. When they push, I'm only drawn closer when it would surely be easier, emotionally avoiding any conflict, if I would just go away.
I think there is a million ways to raise a child. This is one that I am comfortable with. And at a minimum, at least I have some semblance of a plan to interact, rather than none at all.
I have to give my kids a lot of credit. They are not extreme and have often sought out the advice, even if it conflicts with what they originally wanted to do. But more often than not, I am proud of their thinking and don't need to do anything but support them. Thank goodness, they have caused a minuscule amount of problems for my wife and I from what I gave my parents. I mean, geez, I was a Morrissey fan for crying out loud
I always assure them that I love them and I know that it is natural for them to want to push away and rebel from experienced decisions. When they push, I'm only drawn closer when it would surely be easier, emotionally avoiding any conflict, if I would just go away.
I think there is a million ways to raise a child. This is one that I am comfortable with. And at a minimum, at least I have some semblance of a plan to interact, rather than none at all.
I have to give my kids a lot of credit. They are not extreme and have often sought out the advice, even if it conflicts with what they originally wanted to do. But more often than not, I am proud of their thinking and don't need to do anything but support them. Thank goodness, they have caused a minuscule amount of problems for my wife and I from what I gave my parents. I mean, geez, I was a Morrissey fan for crying out loud