Have you SEEN ugly? You're not ugly. There are people out there who are filthy messes. I'm always kind of shocked by most people's narrow definition of acceptable looks though... It seems to be a Thing on Solo.
Seriously, go hang out in a rest stop in New Jersey or a DMV in Kentucky. You'll feel GORGEOUS.
May I suggest something? If you have desire to be clean and sober, perhaps you should start that difficult journey by not frequenting or working in a place that contributes to such activity. May your journey be a successful one....serious dental work is necessary, but pointless til I am clean and sober for at least 90 days, alrite?...
May I suggest something? If you have desire to be clean and sober, perhaps you should start that difficult journey by not frequenting or working in a place that contributes to such activity. May your journey be a successful one.
actually, now that I have been so vocal about my desire to stay clean and sober for at least 90 days
well, many of the people I go to clubs with have been quite supportive
as well as most of my co workers, most are use to me smiling which I despise doing now
I must fix my teeth and I simply cannot go through with the 3 scheduled root canals in mid july(I'd like to do them on the old date of my former anniversary since I am gonna be in pain anyways )
but all this depends on me massively reducing the amount of pain reliever necessary to do the operations
also, reading back to the honest responses about ugliness, thank you all, I know I was not alone in feeling this here, and I hope a path to not being ugly(or at least our feeling much less ugly) is open to all
2nd to lastly, Scarlet I. mentioned the high standard for beauty her at Moz Solo, omg! how I beg to differ, its nothing like the Goth clubs of L.A. in which simply everyone is beautiful
and for a while I got by here in the S.F. ones where its only around 75-80 % real pretty people, but with the tooth loss and the just way too many people staring at me like I dont belong, well, it just got to me is all
still, I suppose I get, in theory, where Scarlet I. is coming from, I have just not lived in the world of "normal looking people" for a long, long, long time maybe
ps: I really did not make this thread to read anyone say nice things about me, thanks and all, but I do, sort of, skip right through those comments
why do you have a goal of 90 days? i mean, cuz then what? either you want to be sober or you don't. dont set goals like that, cuz they will seem impossible some days. just take it one day at a time. sorry i sound like an AA meeting, but its true. what happens after 90s days? you have a celebratory drink? kinda counter productive. i think seeker is right about the whole job choice thing, but i realize its hard to get a job these days, but if you are serious about staying clean, you should really be open to other options. your coworkers might be supportive by not offering you drinks or whatever, but its still in your face every day. i know i wouldnt be able to do it.
Hey, you know what? At least he has a goal...at least he is trying. If he is able to get through 90 days of being sober, he is proving to himself that he can get through three months of his life w/ out being under the influence of any substance. A lot of addicts relapse during that time period. Cheers to him for three months sobriety!!
And if he should relapse...he should dust himself off and try again. It's like learning to ride a bike w/ out training wheels...you need them for a while, but the more determined you are to be independent of them the greater the opportunity of success...
Is the perceived "ugliness" a factor in your "addiction",Robster ?
You like a nice cuddly kinda chap.
yes & thank you
also, I typed a much longer initial response(including attaching other people's posts)
but my computer crashed when I hit "submit" and I am far too angry now to retype all that
however, in the future, I should be able to stop losing what I type by saving it first
since Andi just told me that is going to keep possibly happening as long as I have the same old semi-defective network card in this mother effin piece of shit I use for a computer
Couldn't agree more with you Scarlet!I just think people should look clean, mainly. If that's a narrow definition, then so be it. For me it's all about hygiene and style. I've seen some people who were born with the most unfortunate faces turn themselves into extremely attractive and sexy specimens just by being clean and having great taste.
Hellie - absolutely! To hell with the rest of the world!!!Make the best of who you are and if it's not good enough for the rest of the world then tough.