First date etiquette
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Is it ok to sleep with someone on the first date? My potential date has asked me if its okay and am torn between slapping him and saying.." oh go on then"
Oh my God. Is this a serious question? If you ever want to see him again, no it's not ok! If he's the sort of person who wants to sleep with you on a first date, he probably won't be wanting a second date as he's obviously only after one thing. The fact that he's even asked you suggests a total lack of any respect for you as a person! You're not a piece of meat!
Hellie
Lost
Oh dear I'm quite liberal it seems...he might want a second date on depending how good I am
...but i know where you're coming from but I never learn.billy scissors
a bit fond
Oh go for it man,youre not getting any younger.If hes good,see him again,if hes crap,dump him.Next question
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Hellie
Lost
billy scissors
a bit fond
wise words Grandma
Well ,from reading some of your posts,Im sure youve been round the block a few times.What do you normally do?
CrystalGeezer
My secret's my enzyme.
To sort of quote last week's Mad Men, he'll respect you more in the long term if you wait.
I agree with this. He won't be back 'if you're good'. He'll be on to the next one. Or if he is still around, it'll be because he knows you're not going to refuse him sex! If he cared about you at all, or was even vaguely interested in you as a person, he would wait.
Hellie
Lost
My pants are better than that
...Where do you get this stuff from?..you have an endless supply.
Jackie London
♥ Howlin' Pelle
Is it ok to sleep with someone on the first date? My potential date has asked me if its okay and am torn between slapping him and saying.." oh go on then"
If you really, really like him, then probably no. You should wait at least until the 3rd date. If you're not that interested in him but want a shag, then sure, why not!
Hellie
Lost
Hellie
Lost
Jackie London
♥ Howlin' Pelle
I waited till the 5th with the last and he still dumped me....
Then he was probably a loser anyway! I've heard that the 3rd date is perfect, if you do it earlier you will seem like a slut and if you wait longer he will think you're boring. All these mixed messages men send out all the time, they're so hard to read!
billy scissors
a bit fond
I waited till the 5th with the last and he still dumped me....
Is he fit?The new guy?
Hellie
Lost
yep !!!I don't date duffers
don't have a type...geeky...hippy...bald...muscley its all good
as long as they make me laugh and are intelligent...can't stand monosyllabic individuals...my ideal type would love discussing the music of Morrissey and The Smiths on a first date...but it aint gonna happen.
billy scissors
a bit fond
yep !!!I don't date duffers
don't have a type...geeky...hippy...bald...muscley its all good
as long as they make me laugh and are intelligent...can't stand monosyllabic individuals...my ideal type would love discussing the music of Morrissey and The Smiths on a first date...but it aint gonna happen.
Oh well,just shag him.To Some Girls Are Bigger Than Others
mauve21
Long time participant
Seriously, no, if you want to see him again,
you shouldn't go all the way on the first date,
because he'll just think you're easy and go on to
the next one!
That's just my opinion, and I understand it's tempting to shag
if he's seriously alluring but best to wait at least till third date.
you shouldn't go all the way on the first date,
because he'll just think you're easy and go on to
the next one!
That's just my opinion, and I understand it's tempting to shag
if he's seriously alluring but best to wait at least till third date.
D
Dave
Guest
I think that if you want to have sex with them it doesn't matter what date it is. If you are waiting until the third date because you are worried about what they will think of you then you probably shouldn't have sex with them at all. I think that those rules assume that the person is dating several people and in that case some guidelines might help, but it seems to me that not too many people date several people anymore, and if they do it's not really dating and the whole point is to have sex, so there's no sense pretending.
malvachat
My eyes are now open
What an interesting question.
I don't believe there is a right or wrong answer to this.
A man/women will come back for a second date if you have a good time.Whether that included sex or not.
For the record my wife was a one night stand that has now lasted 18 years.(16 years married next month)
I don't believe there is a right or wrong answer to this.
A man/women will come back for a second date if you have a good time.Whether that included sex or not.
For the record my wife was a one night stand that has now lasted 18 years.(16 years married next month)
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