Oh Mother

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My family is going through a very difficult time right now. My Mothers illness is progressing and from what we have learned it`s only going to get worse. I have such a hard time writing that because I don`t want to admit it and I don`t want to accept it. It makes it real, and I don`t want to accept it.

My Mom fell again, and my dad and I had to lift her off the bathroom floor. That wasn`t the first time. She`s in a little pain right now but is able to get around with a walker. She feels depressed about what she`s going through and she has every right to be.

This year has been very hard for all of us. It`s hard to see my Mom like this. She was a very independent woman. We used to get in the car and just go shopping or just the through a drive thru to get a treat. She can`t drive anymore and she misses that the most. My sisters help a lot but they aren`t here like my dad and I are. I just want to escape my thoughts sometimes and I want things to be like they used to be. I do believe in God but sometimes I get angry that this is happening to her. She is the most loving and unselfish person you could ever know. It`s so unfair that this is happening to hear. I don`t want to admit this but sometimes because of this I question my faith. This makes me feel guilty. I still pray at night before I go to bed.

My Mom is my best friend and I don`t want to lose her. That would devastate me, and I don`t know how I could go on without her. I would die for her she means so much to me. Even if she didn`t always understand it she`s always been there for me with my own mental health issues. I just don`t want to see her hurt like she is right now. My heart is broken.

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My mother is in great pain every day. It kills me to see her like that. Like you and your mom, we used to do so much together, too. Our favorite thing was shopping and going out for lunch or dinner. Just being silly. Our little shenanigans…She told me if she wasn’t always in so much pain, nothing would’ve changed because otherwise, she feels fine. But, it has and it makes me so sad. I cherish every moment I have with her. Even when she’s annoying the hell out of me! I’m glad that she’s still funny and she tries to stay upbeat. She’s very strong willed and tough, though. She’s a happy person. Always has been. She’s never understood my depression and anxiety, and she tells me that I’m stronger than I know…She’s probably the only person who’s ever believed in me. So, I completely know how you feel. I’ll be lost without her, and I can’t think much about that because my anxiety will go through the roof and I'll just shut down…

If I told her any of this, she’d say, “that’s just ridiculous! You can’t live like that! Get a grip!” 😆

Meanwhile, my Dad…well, he’s lost his mind and that’s all I can say about that! Sheesh!

PS: fun fact, my mom has been to five Morrissey shows! She likes his music, but she loves to see how much I love him, if that makes any sense! The last show she went to was in 2015. I got a ticket for the pit, which was pretty small. I got her a first row seat behind the pit. While the videos were on, she walked up next to me at the stage. This security guard actually came up to my little mother and asked her if she had a ticket for the pit! She said, “No. I just want to see him up close for the first song and then I’ll go back to my seat.” He told her she could not stand there if she didn’t have a ticket and before I could even open my mouth…cause, girl…😡…she looked at me and said, “No! It’s okay…” That little guy looked a little nervous after that, I have to say. We did enjoy the show, though, and I got to hold Morrissey’s hand. I remember after, I ran over to her and said, “I got to hold his hand!!!” And she smiled and said, “I know. I saw you!” ❤

Anyway, sorry Tibbs. I didn’t mean to take over your blog entry 😳
 
My mother is in great pain every day. It kills me to see her like that. Like you and your mom, we used to do so much together, too. Our favorite thing was shopping and going out for lunch or dinner. Just being silly. Our little shenanigans…She told me if she wasn’t always in so much pain, nothing would’ve changed because otherwise, she feels fine. But, it has and it makes me so sad. I cherish every moment I have with her. Even when she’s annoying the hell out of me! I’m glad that she’s still funny and she tries to stay upbeat. She’s very strong willed and tough, though. She’s a happy person. Always has been. She’s never understood my depression and anxiety, and she tells me that I’m stronger than I know…She’s probably the only person who’s ever believed in me. So, I completely know how you feel. I’ll be lost without her, and I can’t think much about that because my anxiety will go through the roof and I'll just shut down…

If I told her any of this, she’d say, “that’s just ridiculous! You can’t live like that! Get a grip!” 😆

Meanwhile, my Dad…well, he’s lost his mind and that’s all I can say about that! Sheesh!

PS: fun fact, my mom has been to five Morrissey shows! She likes his music, but she loves to see how much I love him, if that makes any sense! The last show she went to was in 2015. I got a ticket for the pit, which was pretty small. I got her a first row seat behind the pit. While the videos were on, she walked up next to me at the stage. This security guard actually came up to my little mother and asked her if she had a ticket for the pit! She said, “No. I just want to see him up close for the first song and then I’ll go back to my seat.” He told her she could not stand there if she didn’t have a ticket and before I could even open my mouth…cause, girl…😡…she looked at me and said, “No! It’s okay…” That little guy looked a little nervous after that, I have to say. We did enjoy the show, though, and I got to hold Morrissey’s hand. I remember after, I ran over to her and said, “I got to hold his hand!!!” And she smiled and said, “I know. I saw you!” ❤

Anyway, sorry Tibbs. I didn’t mean to take over your blog entry 😳
No need to apologize HIG. I`m sorry your mom is in such great pain. I can relate to what you wrote. This year has been really hard. Around this time of year my Mom and I used to take my nieces and nephews in the car and go around town to see all the Christmas lights. She even took us all to see The Nutcracker. We would drive around in the car and listen to Elvis`s Christmas music and the Motown Christmas album. She also like Brian Setzer`s Christmas music too.

I think the reason I love music so much is because of her. She never went to any Morrissey shows but she bought tickets for me to see him when I didn`t have the money. She also made it possible for me to go by renting a car for my sister to take me to see him.

She told me she really understood my depression now that she became ill herself. That made me sad. I would never want anyone to feel the way I do. Life just feels so unfair right now though I am grateful she is still here, and I am grateful for what we have.

Thank you for commenting HIG. Please know that you and your mom are in my thoughts and prayers if that`s okay.
 

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