Do you think that if you become friends with someone you enter into some kind of unwritten social contract? Do you feel that if people become friends they have a responsibility not to break off a friendship without warning? I made a couple of friends just less than a year ago and we became close; I got the feeling that we were all to become great, long term friends. Through no seeming fault of my own, they no longer speak to me, break promises of meeting and have generally betrayed the trust i put in them during the short time we were friends. I have rarely felt more deflated by something, even problems with love. Has this happened to others?
of course, thats why I really do not think of too many people as being my "close friends"
if close friends f you over like that, they aint close friends
back when I lived in L.A., I thought I had a lot of "close friends"
but when things went badly for me I found out how wrong I was
some people turned on me and kicked me while I was down
others turned their back on me, or "chose" her over me
a handful did not brake faith, but drifted apart from me when I left
now I have my real friends, those few from before San Francisco that have made the effort to keep in contact
and the few people I have come to know real well here
All this takes years to happen though
spleenhead
and you will never really know who your friends are til:
you have known them for years
&
you see how they act when the chips are down for you
and vice versa